This empathetic guide coauthored by cancer survivor Dr. Alan Wolfelt helps individuals understand and cope with the many difficult thoughts and feelings to which a cancer diagnosis can give rise, assisting them as they find ways to experience peace and joy throughout their journey.
Alan Wolfelt wrote this book to help those in mourning through what can be the hardest time of year – the holiday season. Mourners will better understand their complex emotions after reading about such topics as honoring thoughts and feelings, creating new traditions, finding ways to de-stress, and incorporating healing rituals into the holiday season. This book’s practical wisdom also covers issues such as decision-making during the holidays and coping with the blending of mourning and celebration. All of the answers and advice in this guide are provided in the popular 100 ideas format that features one idea per page, allowing readers to fully absorb each suggestion.
When it comes to healing after the death of someone loved, our culture has it all wrong. We’re told to be strong when what we really need is to be vulnerable. We’re told to think positive when what we really need is to wallow in the pain. And we’re told to seek closure when what we really need is to welcome our natural and necessary grief.
This book by beloved grief counselor Dr. Alan Wolfelt seeks to dispel these misconceptions that we hold on to so tightly and help people everywhere mourn well so they can live fuller lives. The Paradoxes of Mourning discusses three truths that grieving people used to know and respect but in the last century, seem to have forgotten:
Truth One: You must make friends with the darkness before you can enter the light.
Truth Two: You must go backward before you can go forward.
Truth Three: You must say hello before you can say goodbye.
In the tradition of the Four Agreements and the Seven Habits, this compassionate and inspiring guidebook by North America’s most beloved grief counselor gives you the three keys that unlock the door to hope and healing. (From back cover.)
Recognizing how the need to grieve is anchored in ones capacity to care for someone, this calming guide contends that the act of mourning is healthy and necessary following a life-changing loss. The very foundation of attachment is reflected upon, illustrating devotion as both the primary cause of grief and a crucial source of emotional recovery. Exploring the essential principles of love as well as the reasons behind it, this heartfelt handbook makes it possible to embrace a trying but vital process.