Skills for Living


Provides nuts-and-bolts techniques and specific do’s and don’ts for leading skill-building counseling groups with elementary-age children who need help developing prosocial and coping skills. Part One provides clear guidelines for designing, organizing, conducting, and evaluating multi- session counseling groups. Part Two provides counseling agendas and step-by-step procedures for conducting groups on eight different topic areas. Appendices contain needs assessment forms, pretests and posttests for each topic area, sample consent forms, and much more.


  • Handouts
  • Acknowledgments
  • Part 1: Getting Started
  • Part 2: Group Agendas

Peace Begins with Me: Peacemaking Skills

  1. Getting Started
  2. Different Races, Smiling Faces
  3. We All Love to Eat
  4. All Kinds of Worship
  5. Xenophilia
  6. Peace to All Creatures
  7. Understanding Homelessness
  8. Saying Goodbye

I’m Somebody Special: Building Self-Esteem

  1. Getting Started
  2. Feely Feelings
  3. Pictures of Me
  4. Changing and Growing
  5. I Can!
  6. What Do I Value?
  7. Appreciating Friends
  8. Saying Goodbye

Friends: Getting Along With Others

  1. Getting Started
  2. All Kinds of Friends
  3. Friendship Zingers
  4. Getting and Giving Help
  5. Saying “I’m Sorry”
  6. Ending Friendships
  7. I Can Cooperate
  8. Saying Goodbye

KIDS: Kids in Divorce Stress

  1. Getting Started
  2. My Family Then and Now
  3. Why People Divorce
  4. Feelings About Divorce
  5. Speak Up
  6. The Myth of the Wicked Stepmother
  7. Chill Out
  8. Saying Goodbye

Grieving and Growing: Learning From Losses

  1. Getting Started
  2. Losing Someone Hurts
  3. Remembering
  4. Why Funerals?
  5. Coping With Stages of Grief
  6. Understanding Causes of Death
  7. Talking to Grieving People
  8. Saying Goodbye

I CAN Kids: Control Anger Now!

  1. Getting Started
  2. Helpful Ways Versus Hurtful Ways
  3. Mad, Bad, Sad, Glad
  4. Worry Warts
  5. Shake It Till You Make It
  6. I Am Not a Crybaby!
  7. Self as Model
  8. Saying Goodbye

I’m Responsible

  1. Getting Started
  2. Responsible by the Light of the Moon
  3. Chocolate, Strawberry, and Vanilla Responsibilities
  4. I’m Responsible for Me
  5. I’m Responsible to Others
  6. I’m Responsible at School
  7. My Responsibilities to Nature
  8. Saying Goodbye

Good Citizen’s Club

  1. Getting Started
  2. Homework Buddies
  3. Controlling Anger
  4. Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire!
  5. Copy Cat
  6. Don’t Touch My Stuff!
  7. You Can’t Tease Me Anymore
  8. Saying Goodbye

Appendix A: Sample Forms

  • Sample Group Counseling Needs Assessment for Faculty
  • Sample Group Counseling Needs Assessment for Students
  • Sample Letter to School Faculty
  • Sample Letter to Parent/Guardian
  • Sample Parent/Guardian Consent Form
  • TAP-In Student Selection Checklist
  • Limits of Confidentiality

Appendix B: Ethical Guidelines for Group Counselors

Appendix C: Pretests/Posttests

  • Peace Begins With Me: Peacemaking Skills
  • I’m Somebody Special: Building Self-Esteem
  • Friends: Getting Along With Others
  • Grieving and Growing: Learning from Losses
  • KIDS: Kids in Divorce Stress
  • I CAN Kids: Control Anger Now!
  • I’m Responsible
  • Good Citizen’s Club


  1. Feeling Faces Chart
  2. Helpful Behaviors Chart
  3. Recipe for Orange-Coconut Balls
  4. Thinking-Feeling-Behaving Diagram
  5. Blank Face Drawing
  6. Behavior Contract Form
  7. Chocolate-Strawberry-Vanilla Responsibilities
  8. My Responsibilities Chart

Additional information

Weight 1.5 lbs
Dimensions .75 × 11 × 8.5 in